#MetooBUT...

I'm being extra spiritual this month and taking a break from social media, so if I say anything that sounds outdated or I don't mention Oprah's speech at least once when writing about this weeks episode, it's because unlike the rest of the world, I have yet to watch it. Yes, I'm taking a break from social media and yeah, I'm still typing this. Let's just say the podcast will always be the exception to any "break".

When Trenelle and I brought you #METOOBUT... we knew we might ruffle some feathers. We also knew there would always be a BUT in the equation or hashtag until Black women and individuals from the most marginalized of communities had their voices and narratives heard long before the majority and the often White voice spoke up.

Someone asked me this evening if I had joined in on any women's march this weekend, and although I said no, they had a level of concern if I would've said yes. I love them to death but I wrestle with the reality that many folks think that God's justice for the injustice in this world rests solely on him and we have no part to play but just pray. I get it, okay that's a lie, I don't entirely get it. I like to think that the same Jesus who turned tables when he saw the temple being turned into a business would also be outraged by what is happening in our world as it pertains to the exploitation of women and want us to do something. I would also like to think he wouldn't want women to stay silent or anyone for that matter when his creation is living under oppression. I'm tired of PC'ing Jesus Christ when he was so far from PC. I'm tired of republicizing Jesus when he wasn't Republican and Liberalizing Jesus when He wasn't even a Liberal. I'm tired of whitening his experiences and making him out to be a person of great privilege in society and from an "affluent" family, because to me, when I read the gospels I read the story of a man who I see relating far more to my life and the life of the "less than". Jesus, he was the son of God and a friend of God, and I feel until we begin to see everyone in that likeness and operate from that likeness rather than hide behind democracy I feel we will continue to exclude and silence the voices of marginalized groups and dismiss their stories, pains, and struggles because here are our realities...

ME TOO BUT...

Sexism and racism are both tools of oppression, and the intersection of these attitudes make women of color particularly susceptible to sexual violence. 

ME TOO BUT...

As women of color, we often feel very strong connections to our families, cultures, and racial/ethnic groups, it is because of this feeling that we often fear “betraying” the people we care about by disclosing abuse that occurs within our communities. As a result of this, we often choose to remain silent.

ME TOO BUT...

The last statement many people would argue and say I'm calling a bluff.

And yes, although this is a very real fear across ethnic groups, think about the reality that in a society where racism is very real and in a society where black and brown men are being murdered on the streets in broad daylight and millions more are being locked up behind bars, we often feel the pressure to stand by our race over standing by what is morally right. Unfortunately, so many of our life decisions are a matter of these two things. Don't believe me? Just look at the cases that surrounded OJ Simpson and Bill Cosby, and you'll see this pressure so many WOC face, where we have to often choose to side with our race over the moral issue at hand.

ME TOO BUT...

We need the support of the church,  in giving us avenues to express our feelings and to find support. We do not often find safety in law enforcement, social service agencies, and healthcare providers. Why? Statistics show that African American women typically comprise about 70% of black congregations. Religious convictions and a fear of shame or rejection from the church may contribute to many of us remaining in an abusive relationship (Women of Color Network Facts & Stats, 2006). That and if your church, like mine, is very involved in the community, their ties run deep with law enforcement, which means the church has ties to entities that often make marginalized groups feel uncomfortable. That isn't to say a church stops these ties, as those ties can be beneficial to the health of a community but it can't be ignored that not only do we carry that fear, but our experiences with institutionalized racism can make it difficult for us aka women of color to trust the systems and institutions that are supposed to help us. 

And lastly, ME TOO BUT...

I want what we say as Black women and really any individual from an underrepresented minority group to matter and be taken seriously. I wrestle with the fact that a Black woman said this phrase almost 10 years ago, and it's now being heard. Makes you wonder how many things Black women have actually discovered and coined in the 21st century that we won't even acknowledge until years from now.

Trenelle and I continually wrestle with these things, as do women of color everywhere. However, we are hoping Episode 9: ME TOO BUT, starts the conversation.

Listen to our latest episode below and let us know what you think.

 

METOOBUT...Some of the statements were factual information pulled from The Connecticut Alliance to End Sexual Violence. Find more of those facts HERE.

Eunice

Just an ordinary girl living in an extraordinary world. In it but not of it.